They said my friends and I are divorced and now we are living a “free life” as we want. People talk as if we should be ashamed,funny enough,before marriage, nobody cared what we did with our lives, Life was private then but the moment you marry, your life becomes a public movie where everyone feels they should talk, judge,have a say and direct your script, I can’t even remember telling the public I was divorced but the news was everywhere.
I used to be like them too. I never considered those who left their marriages to be serious people. I thought they were weak, maybe even fancy or rebellious. But that was before I wore the shoes myself. That was before I understood that peace of mind is not something you beg for, and sometimes you have to choose yourself first.
Uche, Myself and our other friends didn’t plan to be
divorced women. Nobody goes into marriage with the intention to fail but when the reality inside is not what you showed outside, when love turns to survival, you begin to ask yourself “is this what life should be”?
Now they say we’re living a “free life” like it’s a cr!me.
Please, what is wrong with being free and happy? Should we endure being trapped just to make people clap for us? I chose my peace. We all did and that’s not a sin.
Before you judge, wear the shoes. Until then, be careful
how you label other people’s survival stories.
-CHIOMA AKOPTHA.
